Courting: be involved with romantically, typically with the intention of marrying. pay special attention to (someone) in an attempt to win their support or favor.
Courting is a word that we defiantly don’t hear often today. To many its a thing of the past and considered old fashioned but honestly many women yearn to be courted. What happened to opening doors, flowers and candy and actually going on dates? What happened to the days when men made dating intentional?
Dating for many today is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. I mean their are so many blurred lines with dating in our age of technology. Dating today starts off with talking then sex, you may go on a date and after that its kind of up in the air. The problem is we are doing it backwards, as women we are not intentional with what we want and we are jumping in bed too soon! Courting is DATING but with purpose. So often we have no problem with settling for Netflix and chilling. I cant tell you how many stories I have heard of women giving it ALL up then at the very end of each sexual encounter asking “what are we?”. I have experienced this myself before marriage! Ladies I know that this generation teaches us to go after what we want which is great but not so great when it comes to dating. Not only does that leave us open to rejection but as women we were never meant to chase that’s always been the man’s job. We have all heard” why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free”? We are doing too much for BOYFRIENDS and not reserving those special things for our HUSBANDS. I promise you, that as a woman WE set the tone. If you settle for meaningless sex and Netflix and chill 9/10 that’s ALL what you’ll get. But if you make it known that your your goal from the jump, things usually run a lot smoother. It always works better God’s way, ALWAYS!
So to answer my own question NO I don’t think courtship is a thing of the past. I think our standards have been lowered due to society and we choose to settle. I do believe this standard can easily be reversed but we must date with Purpose or else it’s just a waste of time! Now these are just my personal confessions but I would love to hear your opinion on this? Do you think courtship is a thing of the past or are we just making it to easy? Comment below!